Getting older, maturing well

Before I write about the problems of being a single parent, and they are extensive. None of the problems are the fault of the child I hasten to add.

I want to address the issue of getting older in years. We reach our peak in our thirties and slowly over time throughout the late thirties, forties and into the fifties we begin to mature and reflect. Sometimes in anguish but more often with joy at the hurdles we have overcome.

One of the most important lessons is to have confidence in your abilities to adapt to adjust to interact with the world around you.

In your fifties you do begin to notice your faculties begin to tire. I think the forties the aging process is a bit of a shock to the system and all kinds of ailments begin to surface. Often related to the brain not functioning with the same energies of youth. We begin to cut down on things we used to do with impunity when we were younger.

The importance of not getting isolated is all important but a difficult one to handle when people do so.

It's something I want to explore more in this blog.

If it can help me to explore then maybe it can help you.

There are many self-help books out there but maybe I can add and provide further insights that may help me and others.

Ignorance is another thing that can be propagated through silence. You may think you know somebody just by how the look. When you speak to people then you get to know people and better understand the difficulties they may be facing.

Ignorance takes many forms. A good example is that I am fairly ignorant of who may or may not be reading this blog, unless someone tells me.

Another is how to say How are you? and allow plenty time for a detailed response.

Much of what I write here is rewritten as I reflect on what I write. As these random thoughts, inspire me to write. Never knowing 100% what the outcome will be, but, I do enjoy the process.

So many of us are good at remembering and reminiscing about people long gone and sorely missed. However those who are alive we often neglect to even to say hello to.

Some people post and tweet the strangest things. Maybe I do too.

I am a good person, hardworking generous and kind. 

However one comes across people who would rather you be aggressive and argumentative. To prevent people taking advantage of you I have been taken advantage of many many times and am quite used to it by now. Though it still grates from time to time.

Finding the right words to provide meaning to those close and those farther afield is frustratingly tricky.

Making sense of why people take advantage of myself and others is even trickier.

There is a propensity for wanting me to remain silent which I won't. Staying silent helps no one. 

The more I write, hopefully the more eloquent and clearer what I'm writing about will be.

When people knock your confidence it takes a while to recover and regroup. It can affect your fluency. It can affect lots of things.

So many are ready to point out your problems, flaws and imperfections. So very few willing to help you solve these problems.

Confidence is such a fragile thing and can be affected by the simplest of things. It is often why it is good to have people close whom you can confide in and be supported by.

Giving that support takes time and patience.

This idea tha people can be left alone or operate without the help and support of others is not healthy. Not healthy for the individual and not healthy for those around that person. I like solitude but I also enjoy the company of others. One of the worst aspects of human society is when groups get together and isolate an individual. Call the individual weird names making them feel small, uncomfortable so the group or clique can feel big.

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{To be continued]